For nearly half a year, I set foot in the field of counseling to learn how to use counseling language. After learning the counseling language, I expect to use this method of speaking to help others.
The counseling language is to use more positive curiosity when speaking. , Open-ended sentences, and don’t try to guide the person in the conversation to accept my ideas, use empathy more, catch the other’s emotions, and after the emotions are expressed, we believe that the rationality of the talker will be revealed; through dialogue In a way, let the person I talk to see himself.
Of course, this set of speaking methods should also be used in my own life; but what I want to share is the process of learning and consulting. I have met a group of gentle and kind people who are determined or are already engaged in voluntary work.
These friends are young Much younger than me, five, eight or even eighteen years old, but I really like to mix with them.
When we are together thinking about language skills (that is, how to speak better), and we share our lives with each other (because we need to take turns as individual cases), we all see that there are some partners who are working in helping others. There is a bit of a fall.
Some of our partners have already involved themselves in the emotions or events of the case, and cannot extricate themselves, because many times we feel that sympathy is moral, but in sympathy, the helpers have a lot of emotions on their backs.
But in fact, we can’t help others, but we fall into a pothole. Maybe we all know that we might fall into it, but the innate desire to help others makes everyone jump in without hesitation and think it’s right.
If the helper jumps into the hole of the case to help the case, I think there may be room for practical discussion. If the helper jumps in, it is just a black hole buried by two people.
I think maybe we who want to help others will need to correct ourselves. Thoughts; how to help others, but if you don’t get involved in a black hole where you can’t see the end, or accidentally fall into a black hole, how can you climb back and clean yourself up?